This soul-touching insight was central to her declining an invitation to attend the U.S. Naval Academy.
Falk said the honor churches and schools give to the military sends a strong pro-military message to our youth.
"I find myself wondering how the church can show the youth of our militarized nation that their desire for self-sacrifice can best be found in the cross of our Lord."
Kristi Casteel, the mother of the late Joshua Casteel, started by saying "Tonight I am going to simply share Joshua's story in the hope that it will reveal the significance of conscience development and what is possible in our lives when we are alive and responsive to our conscience."
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She said, "War will always exist where love is absent. This is what Joshua came to understand in the twists and turns of his life. His story could be entitled 'An Unexpected Journey.' " And we could surely add this has been the life-title of many a saint.
Casteel said that Joshua's story was an "arduous and complex journey from conservative Evangelical West Point (U.S. military academy) cadet to a more compassionate Catholic conscientious objector."
Casteel explained that Joshua joined the early enlistment program to prepare him for West Point. However, the program's violent chants about killing without mercy didn't quite sit right with all he had learned about Jesus.
And the "reflexive training" the military uses to short-circuit man's resistance to killing, also seemed wrong to Joshua.
He resigned from West Point.
But later in light of the 9/11 terrorist attacks he reenlisted as a non-commissioned Arabic trained interrogator, and was ordered to Iraq.
Kristi Casteel further explained, "The real world of war, however, with its chaos, inconsistencies and known torture in the field – causing his fellow soldiers to unravel emotionally – hit Joshua like a punch in the gut."
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Aware of his deep religious convictions, he was called "priest" by many of the soldiers. Many shared their struggles with him.
The contrived atmosphere of expressed hatred by superior officers towards the detainees did not set well with Joshua.
Casteel said, "Joshua knew that most detainees were simply fathers, imams, and young men caught up in sweeps by American soldiers, or were men turned in by fellow Iraqis in an attempt to earn money from the coalition."
But indeed, God does write straight with crooked lines.
In a later taped explanation, Joshua Casteel revealed that during the interrogation of a young, very calm Jihadist detainee, he was morally confronted by the detainee who called him a very strange man. He said to Joshua you call yourself a Christian, but you do not follow the teachings of Christ who said you are to love your enemies, to pray for those who persecute you, to turn the other cheek.
Joshua said he thought to himself, now this is an ironic moment: Here you are sitting across the table from a declared Jihadist who is giving you a lesson about the Sermon on the Mount.