Jun 9, 2011
I just read a really interesting book: Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids: Why Being a Great Parent is Less Work and More Fun Than You Think. In it, economist Bryan Caplan argues that tacking an extra kid onto your current family size is almost always a good thing—and he does it all with numbers.
If you’ll indulge me to present a bit of Caplan’s argument: the main thrust is that parents actually have very little long-term effect on their children’s habits, character, and temperaments. In short, no matter how good a parent one might be, he says, the “nature” factor of progeny plays a huge role in determining what lies in store for various individuals. Caplan offers a series of twin and adoption studies to this effect—showing that identical twins in different environments turn out to be remarkably similar, even after decades apart.
This is counterintuitive, he admits—and we with children are doubtless the first to agree! But the numbers do present some compelling evidence in favor of “nature” over “nurture”—at least in terms of long-term outcomes. (In the short-run, parental influence is much more palpable; but it’s not surprising that most of this wears off in time.)
Caplan uses all of this to make the claim that, since most kids turn out “alright” in the end—given the forces of “nature” and the high general probability of becoming a functional adult—parents don’t need to work themselves to death (read: spend 40+ hours per week on childcare) just to see their kids live fulfilling lives. And since most of the “benefits” of having kids come later in life—e.g., grandchildren, etc.—another kid or two now seems a pretty good investment to make in order to see a long return in 40 or so years.