Feb 18, 2011
This past Sunday was a true Sunday — we had nothing to do but Mass. So, I took my two youngest children to a nearby hotel for a swim. We have frequented this establishment for over a decade and our loyalty has paid off: The owners give us a free swim with breakfast. We greatly appreciate the gratuity and the opportunity to grab a quick break without having to drive a long distance.
This particular visit included the added benefit of an instant friend for my daughter. Serendipitously, a short-term missionary doctor had brought her 13 year old daughter to the pool for a break as well. With a little encouragement, the two girls were soon deciding what game to play. No need for background checks or résumé comparisons — just some quick ground rules and they were off in their own world.
I was amazed at how quickly these two queens-of-their-own-realm could establish a set of mutually acceptable rules to play by. The skill and speed at which they were able to develop workable parameters for their brand new relationship was incredible. In a matter of minutes, they were cooperating and enjoying themselves.
The girls’ success at playing demonstrates how rules can “unlock” the potential of human interaction. Since we are social beings and society is based on rules, wherever and whenever there is a clear, fair set of rules, human interaction is likely to be happier and more productive. Their laughter was not only personally endearing — it proves the intrinsic value of rules.